tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85536997577943480682024-02-18T21:57:02.856-06:00Milk MustacheA Breastfeeding JournalUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-22278379812651064592011-08-07T21:01:00.000-05:002011-08-07T21:01:41.448-05:00Feeding a Dolly<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOu7PQBl8Q96VZET3ukNkuU2oDCOFeOjD5vBNZ8ZnGJOdqVdUeT7x6abBtu_rOed7un6Mif8NiZVm7NlvRb6bm074ifQPzh39yq1rMYO2YRQXHZVCh2zUlYp0jnEL3TP8nujDaXLU_ZQo/s1600/1+%252B+years+073.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOu7PQBl8Q96VZET3ukNkuU2oDCOFeOjD5vBNZ8ZnGJOdqVdUeT7x6abBtu_rOed7un6Mif8NiZVm7NlvRb6bm074ifQPzh39yq1rMYO2YRQXHZVCh2zUlYp0jnEL3TP8nujDaXLU_ZQo/s200/1+%252B+years+073.JPG" t$="true" width="200" /></a></div>"Aya, your baby is hungry. Do you want to give her some milk?" I asked one lazy humid summer afternoon. My husband and I followed our little girl as she toddled off, dolly in a tight grip, into the bedroom where she found my boppy and asked for help getting onto our "nursing chair." We had no idea Aya would respond in this way, but she acted as if it were the most natural and obvious thing to do. After our difficult breastfeeding start, it was really very special for us to see that our little girl knew exactly how she wanted to feed her baby. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-46428461210945593672011-08-07T20:17:00.000-05:002011-08-07T20:17:43.731-05:00Nursing While PregnantNursing while pregnant has been a whole new experience. The first thing that happened was that nursing became very painful. It didn't seem to matter how wide Aya opened her mouth or how gentle she latched on. It was a sharp and intense pain, but luckily for me, as soon as she started drinking, the pain lessened. Slowly, during the end of my second trimester, I knew my milk was transitioning to colostrum, and along with the transition, feeding stopped hurting. It was such a relief! From what I have read, many infants stop feeding during pregnancy because the taste of the milk changes. For my little girl the opposite has happened. After my milk turned to colostrum, she has asked to nurse more frequently than before. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimNdfBPpMpv8IaOtc982WR4qGAQFgYsYxCiw1UypmGP5DKOIeRkXHYidZ3LX2sWqrID75cUtJkotTLAhFqjF0bKkPjzCfO3kfARa9YbCXPH8I64aByxBQ14ZwW7Qqg3a7Kv_r0MGGgYXA/s1600/DSCN4562.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimNdfBPpMpv8IaOtc982WR4qGAQFgYsYxCiw1UypmGP5DKOIeRkXHYidZ3LX2sWqrID75cUtJkotTLAhFqjF0bKkPjzCfO3kfARa9YbCXPH8I64aByxBQ14ZwW7Qqg3a7Kv_r0MGGgYXA/s200/DSCN4562.JPG" t$="true" width="200" /></a></div>I am thankful I have been able to continue breastfeeding Aya during this time. I feel like it is my way of showing her I'm still HER mama, even when her new sister arrives. I'm not yet sure how I'll nurse two, or whether Aya will even continue to be interested. I don't really know what I will do if Aya decides she wants to nurse all of the time or is upset while I feed the new baby. I don't know whether or not I will tandem nurse or nurse them separately. I really don't know. But I plan to arm myself with some good advice beforehand and do some extra reading. And then, I'll just experiment, and make decisions when new circumstances and feelings present themselves. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-48843523828559545272011-07-27T06:59:00.000-05:002011-07-27T06:59:11.859-05:00My Babies VoiceWhen Aya was littler, I remember being jealous of the moms whose babies slept peacefully and often. It seemed I often thought of these calm babies as "good" babies, and mine as "difficult" or maybe even "bad." My friend used to call her babies cry his "voice." This helped me rethink what I thought about Aya's cries in the night, and in the day. It was her only way to express herself. She wasn't trying to be loud or tiring or difficult. <br />
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As Aya grew, she learned to suck on her arm for comfort like a thumb. I noticed that each time she'd cry she would eventually take her arm to calm herself. She too didn't want to be crying. It wasn't fun for her either. This gave me more compassion.<br />
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I found this article earlier this week. With the arrivial of our next baby this Fall, I may need to remind myself of these cries for help or love or peace. <a href="http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/good_baby.html">http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/good_baby.html</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-22147525938040083522011-03-20T12:07:00.000-05:002011-03-20T12:07:19.046-05:00Compassion and UnderstandingMany people know I am definitely a breastfeeding supporter, but recently I've been reminded of the importance of being a compassionate supporter. By a compassionate supporter I mean realizing not all mothers can breastfeed the way they had hoped or wanted to. I mean acknowledging that there are situations that lead a mother to stop before they or the baby are ready. I mean listening to the stories of mothers without judgment. <br />
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I have a friend who recently had to wean because she was on medications that would no longer allow safe milk for her baby. The experience has been heartbreaking for my friend, and she feels inadequate. She also wonders if mothers now judge her as she feeds her baby a bottle. I believe that most mothers want to breastfeed their babies, and as a breastfeeding advocate I want to remember there is always a story behind the bottle that needs respect and understanding. Feeding our children is a personal and unique experience. All moms want the best for their babies, and if a mother who bottle feeds feels pressure or condemnation from breastfeeding mothers, then we have a long way to go. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-42276967867416437432011-02-04T06:14:00.001-06:002011-02-04T16:45:10.567-06:00I Never Knew...I never knew I could love our baby this much.<br />
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Last night after school, Dan and I drove to our PO Box to pick up the mail. I was expecting a set of photos of our baby girl and there they were. I am always excited to open up mail and sometimes I order pictures just so I can have the pleasure of diving into a new set of our favorite photo captures. As we both looked through the photos, I kept stopping with each one, gushing over every smile and expression on Aya's face. "Oh, I just LOVE this baby," I kept saying, holding the photos closer as if I could just get lost in her forever. And then Dan said it, "You missed out on this feeling for so long in the beginning." It hit me. I just now really and deeply love my baby. In the beginning I could tell myself I loved my baby, but I certainly didn't feel it. There wasn't a resounding, overwhelmingly beautiful feeling in my body that made me melt when I looked at Aya. There wasn't a desire to snatch her up and kiss her all over her face. <br />
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I will never know for sure all of the reasons I had such a difficult time bonding with our baby, but I do know that the bonding process is beautiful, and that it unfolds. I am glad I have started to see it and celebrate it. Whether I would have bonded more quickly if I hadn't experienced post-partum depression I won't know either, but I do know that once my body started recovering with the help of medication, counseling and family support, that I was able to begin falling in love with Aya. <br />
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Nursing continues to be part of our bonding process. For a time, I dreaded and feared nursing sessions because they often were uncomfortable and rarely accomplished their expected calming results. Now it is a pleasure to nurse and I couldn't be happier when Aya wants me, just me.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-81357420610939322472011-01-31T14:29:00.001-06:002011-02-04T06:14:53.391-06:00An unexpected gift<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYkLVViKHDfkxMm4INwtl6RHy9f7oC9U5PpZNwy-bRpj_Lc5PbSnmglyl7bP_P26Rv23A8-L8yrB-0GaYDGvBJpRFY2xKHoVz7o_g9XOvyu2ZO80DfExrXvF5zSqIrJjCNxgwYGRQBhzM/s1600/DSCN3728.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" s5="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYkLVViKHDfkxMm4INwtl6RHy9f7oC9U5PpZNwy-bRpj_Lc5PbSnmglyl7bP_P26Rv23A8-L8yrB-0GaYDGvBJpRFY2xKHoVz7o_g9XOvyu2ZO80DfExrXvF5zSqIrJjCNxgwYGRQBhzM/s200/DSCN3728.JPG" width="200" /></a></div>I have been so grateful that for the past 11 months I have been able to pump enough milk for Aya. I have to admit though, it has not been my favorite thing to do. Holding baby Aya and seeing the joy she gets from nursing is worth every effort, but pumping isn't exactly enjoyable. Despite my efforts to look at the positive aspects, I have grown tired of the routine. Plus, it still makes me a little sore. However, I had decided that I would continue to pump twice a day beyond her first year to make sure she continued to receive the best nutrition I could give her. I kept telling myself it wasn't her decision that I work. <br />
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And so I was okay with continuing my pumping regime. Over winter break though, an unexpected gift came my way! While away from work, I was able to nurse Aya as often as she wanted and sometimes she would go an entire daytime without nursing. She was sleeping well at night and so often I might only be nursing 3-4 times in an entire 24 hour period. When I returned to work a week and half later, it was very obvious my supply had naturally dropped because suddenly my standard 8 ounces a day had dropped to 6 or even less. Rather than worry about not getting enough, I decided to just go with this new amount. I told our sitter to let me know if it didn't seem to be enough for Aya, but after a few days she said Aya was doing great despite the smaller bottle. This meant I really wasn't going to have to keep pumping as much after all ,and I can now get enough milk from just one pumping session a day. This small little gift of time that I no longer have to pump has been a nice surprise and reminds me that in the big picture, the time we mothers pump for our babies is really very short and worth more than we can know.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-85624326439085758112011-01-31T14:06:00.000-06:002011-01-31T14:06:20.724-06:00Babies Want to Nurse<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjU1SblDzAX-jGGDDZqbKyH2dBIkn3wv3Z58q4bQ34fbi-udC5WaJTHpP1qUWnMvIfQATxKxLLvYXOJ6n5owyRDtzq-BnN9HzsAesiUx6aRVbI-2Rqno4KZGwblLaaFjvBy-HCk7tY4CaY/s1600/DSCN3722.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" s5="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjU1SblDzAX-jGGDDZqbKyH2dBIkn3wv3Z58q4bQ34fbi-udC5WaJTHpP1qUWnMvIfQATxKxLLvYXOJ6n5owyRDtzq-BnN9HzsAesiUx6aRVbI-2Rqno4KZGwblLaaFjvBy-HCk7tY4CaY/s200/DSCN3722.JPG" width="200" /></a></div>I read somewhere recently that babies really want to nurse. Here are some experiences I have had while nursing Aya that lead me to believe this must be true.<br />
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In the beginning, when my milk supply far exceeded what Aya needed and my letdown was too fast for her small mouth, Aya continued to try nursing, even while sputtering and choking. She cried in protest to tell me something was wrong, but she never stopped trying to make it work.<br />
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When Aya was sick last week, and too stuffed up to drink and breathe at the same time, she still found a way to nurse. It looked uncomfortable and it looked like hard work, but Aya kept coming back for more. <br />
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Aya lets us know when she doesn't want something and just about everything at one time or another has fallen into this category. Sometimes she wants up, sometimes down. Sometimes she loves applesauce and peas and other times she won't touch them. Sometimes she likes to explore on her own and sometimes she wants to be close. Yet Aya never turns down nursing. It seems to be something she always wants to do. <br />
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It must be true. Babies must know their mother's milk is good for them, body and spirit. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-73716897044673792532011-01-01T15:02:00.003-06:002011-04-17T09:41:10.165-05:00Still breastfeeding<div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYHvkWZ3IrZ8_w7Ipig8HVYkgix_g7VBNm71p899kU4pD7FMzlhbGcpW8fWCQ0iCcJDfSa2FSF1_VF94Sx5feOcIIZpO8Yo50zYRPaJlrmQbay4NCaHNhn4Xlt9QRJs_VZK8J36XniBg8/s1600/DSCN3630.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" n4="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYHvkWZ3IrZ8_w7Ipig8HVYkgix_g7VBNm71p899kU4pD7FMzlhbGcpW8fWCQ0iCcJDfSa2FSF1_VF94Sx5feOcIIZpO8Yo50zYRPaJlrmQbay4NCaHNhn4Xlt9QRJs_VZK8J36XniBg8/s200/DSCN3630.JPG" width="200" /></a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;">Aya is 10 1/2 months now and at one time I had thought I would stop nursing her when she turned one. However, as her first birthday approaches, I don't feel as though I'm ready to stop. She still really enjoys nursing and I can't imagine that she will suddenly feel different on her birthday. So, for now, I don't really have a plan for how long I will continue to nurse Aya. I like knowing that she will benefit from my milk for as long as I give it to her, in ways that science can't duplicate. She will continue to benefit from extra immunity and other nutrients that researchers are still discovering. And perhaps too she'll benefit from the closeness and security breastfeeding provides. </div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><br />
</div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="http://www.llli.org/NB/NBJulAug90p99.html"><span style="color: #660000;">Nursing Beyond a Year</span></a></div><div style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none;"><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html"><span style="color: #660000;">Breastfeeding Past Infancy</span></a></div><a href="http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=78:breastfeed-a-toddlerwhy-on-earth&catid=5:information&Itemid=17"><span style="color: #660000;">Breastfeed a Toddler--Why on Earth?</span></a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-54854085339454872682010-12-31T08:04:00.001-06:002011-01-01T06:36:39.085-06:00Teeth!<div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUnn6fcosM9CScfL8vFmAADb0umTtQMOV6c6EWGHx4DKSAisfV4viJnM0eDadZc316webYpw3OuZ_hSs9auKdy72FBcSUHZN8Qn_j7ICvob7cWyaLKatXWsDTwIkBwrxQR3vWGGr5d38E/s1600/DSCN3625.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" n4="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUnn6fcosM9CScfL8vFmAADb0umTtQMOV6c6EWGHx4DKSAisfV4viJnM0eDadZc316webYpw3OuZ_hSs9auKdy72FBcSUHZN8Qn_j7ICvob7cWyaLKatXWsDTwIkBwrxQR3vWGGr5d38E/s200/DSCN3625.JPG" width="200" /></a></div>Aya's smile will never be the same! She has teeth! I was a little worried about how nursing would go after her teeth came in, but it has been smooth. I usually don't feel her teeth at all while I nurse. It is only at the very end of feedings when she has fallen asleep or is ready to be done, that I sometimes have to be ready to take her off my breast or reposition her if she begins to clamp down. <br />
Really, I had more discomfort nursing Aya before her teeth pushed through. She clamped down often and pulled. I now think she did this because it made her gums feel better. It was a relief that once her teeth came in I actually felt a lot better.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-80572441185410522672010-12-24T19:28:00.001-06:002010-12-30T06:54:08.772-06:00The Perfect Gift<div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-QaSyrMtFxuPjiVs4Glfje0dkcX88wmo0qnC438ja_7N9WiJftuvQ1vkylrcek8CDGixTD_CdkHvTa_UnA4c4Uvb4wZpbviNgldssMXtQa-O9M9woVlQ55DqAqgKTccnTKSNMm66PG88/s1600/158.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" n4="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-QaSyrMtFxuPjiVs4Glfje0dkcX88wmo0qnC438ja_7N9WiJftuvQ1vkylrcek8CDGixTD_CdkHvTa_UnA4c4Uvb4wZpbviNgldssMXtQa-O9M9woVlQ55DqAqgKTccnTKSNMm66PG88/s320/158.jpg" style="cursor: move;" unselectable="on" width="212" /></a></div>My friend and I were talking the other evening about nighttime feeding. Although it is usually not my favorite thing to do, and I'm still quite certain I'd prefer not have to get up at all at night, we both decided there are some special things about feeding our babies in the wee hours of the night. <br />
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First, babies' eyes are beautiful in the dim light. They are honest, pure and beautifully vulnerable. <br />
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Secondly, we as nursing moms really have the perfect gift to give our little ones when they wake up needing comfort. It is a special gift, made uniquely for them at that exact time and place. We are lucky to be bearers of that gift. <br />
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Lastly, for me, as a working mom, it feels important for me to be able to give my baby something that no one else can. I know there are things that our caregiver does better than me--things that only she can give to Aya...but only I can nurse our little daughter and that makes me feel like her mom more than anything else.<br />
<img height="96" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-QaSyrMtFxuPjiVs4Glfje0dkcX88wmo0qnC438ja_7N9WiJftuvQ1vkylrcek8CDGixTD_CdkHvTa_UnA4c4Uvb4wZpbviNgldssMXtQa-O9M9woVlQ55DqAqgKTccnTKSNMm66PG88/s320/158.jpg" style="filter: alpha(opacity=30); left: 159px; mozopacity: 0.3; opacity: 0.3; position: absolute; top: 259px; visibility: hidden;" width="63" />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-10225725480568408702010-11-13T05:39:00.004-06:002010-11-13T05:58:31.229-06:00A sick little one<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_he0KfyZgwWXpFqVEP0d7ks_x2zrgRbHfG2KOgkckzNUHfSGywEzti9J4_LZMDActM01yrqoTq13O3NkybraTdaIZylHOcxVZFqAgL1-EkES-qY9WQ081RUfaO6X3gH8xZoS6jzPc5OE/s1600/DSCN3079.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5539002027833184162" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_he0KfyZgwWXpFqVEP0d7ks_x2zrgRbHfG2KOgkckzNUHfSGywEzti9J4_LZMDActM01yrqoTq13O3NkybraTdaIZylHOcxVZFqAgL1-EkES-qY9WQ081RUfaO6X3gH8xZoS6jzPc5OE/s200/DSCN3079.JPG" /></a> My little Aya was sick this week. On Wednesday night she woke up around midnight and was burning hot. As a breastfeeding mom, I was so grateful I could instantly comfort her by feeding her. I wasn't surprised she was sick. The little boy at her sitter's house had come down with an ear infection and strep earlier in the week. The rest of the night was fretful for Aya. She called out in her sleep often. As I lay in bed listening for her, I felt so grateful I am still breastfeeding. I felt like it enabled our Aya to keep resting despite the fact she was miserable. I wondered what the mother who doesn't breastfeed does to comfort her sick baby and help her to sleep. Does she continue to warm bottles? Does she rely on rocking? As I drifted back into sleep, while still on high alert for Aya, I felt comforted knowing I could let Aya breastfeed all night long if she needed to. Having an option that guaranteed comfort and rest for her was a relief to me and a proud moment.<br /><div></div><br /><div>The next day we took Aya to the doctor and ruled out an infection. I also took her to the chiropractor for an adjustment. Mostly though, we nursed. She wasn't happy with solids as she often takes during the day. Instead, she just wanted me, and often. Two naps were spent laying close to me, nursing. She was easily comforted by nursing and easily nursed into peaceful, healing slumbers. I expected Aya to be sick for longer than she was because her buddy next door was sick for an entire week. But Aya seemed to rebound really quickly. I owe it all to breastfeeding, its antibodies, its comfort, and its healing. I read later it is good to nurse a sick baby as often as they will drink to speed healing. I wouldn't have had to read this however; Aya's body let me know that was what she needed. Amazing. </div><div> </div><div><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/health/illness/baby-illness.html">Breastfeeding a Sick Infant</a></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-57512009154346695852010-11-08T13:10:00.016-06:002010-11-13T05:31:13.460-06:00Post Partum Depression<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrEz6ouCJ1in4hIJc_QIXYR4xNHqzxEvT5NxOSSX_tzpJt6YO3gJrZnNn8TNuKTfkR7jg1z3BALQ7YxO50x7VqC6Dzwv0PpL5spB476vqzyxkDKbXgVgJnBIbt3d7xbKFxFJFM4OYZ8Wo/s1600/DSCN3092.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5538995239261718450" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrEz6ouCJ1in4hIJc_QIXYR4xNHqzxEvT5NxOSSX_tzpJt6YO3gJrZnNn8TNuKTfkR7jg1z3BALQ7YxO50x7VqC6Dzwv0PpL5spB476vqzyxkDKbXgVgJnBIbt3d7xbKFxFJFM4OYZ8Wo/s200/DSCN3092.JPG" /></a> I haven't written at all about post partum depression yet, and it is time. In many ways, I wish I had written about my experience while I was in the midst of my depression; yet I will write my reflection of it and hopefully I will do it's feelings justice.<br /><br />I had heard about post-partum depression but that's all. I wasn't going to have it...I wasn't even going to have the baby blues. I am not sure why I thought I had some special immunity that a large number of women don't.<br /><br />Looking back, I think my first signs of depression were from the moment little Aya was born. I remember thinking she was beautiful and I was thrilled to have labored naturally. I remember being amazed at the complexity of her tiny face. It held everything all in a miniature model, yet was still so detailed, refined and perfect. It was the proudest moment I have ever felt but for some reason I felt detached from the very life I labored for. I didn't feel a need to hold her or be close to her. The doctor laid her on my chest when she was first born and I watched Dan cut her umbilical cord. But after that, I don't remember holding her or gazing at her for a very long time. They weighed her and checked her over, cleaned her, and checked her over again. Dan held her, then Grandma Milli, and then my parents and brother. I was light headed at the time and didn't feel 100% coherent, despite the fact I had a vaginal birth free of any kind of pain medication.<br /><br />After quite some time, I was able to hold Aya to feed her, but I don't remember feeling very connected to her then either. I was more excited that breastfeeding was working than I was to gaze at her and love her. She spent the night in the nursery and they brought her to me when she needed to nurse. And on the second day in the hospital I remember holding her very little still. Each time I did, she was swaddled tightly, her cap on. My friends came to visit and held her the whole time. When they left I remember them asking if I wanted to hold her. I said I didn't; I said they could lay her in her little bassinet. When I think about this now, it makes me sad. My side would have been the most comforting, most reassuring and most natural space for Aya's small little spirit--and it would have been best for me too.<br /><br />The lack of connection I felt towards Aya continued, but as time went on it got worse. In addition to feeling like I hadn't fallen in love with my baby, I now felt burdened by her, overwhelmed by her, frustrated with her. I honestly had many days where I didn't want her and didn't want her to be mine. I would look at her crying and feel like letting her be. I didn't feel sad for her or concerned for her well-being. I was taking care of her out of a feeling of obligation, not out of love for my sweet baby girl who was obviously asking for something whether she knew what it was or not.<br /><br />Aya wasn't a very happy little baby. She cried a lot. It felt as though she was either sleeping or screaming so all I wanted her to do was sleep. Then, when she was awake, I wasn't happy until she was sleeping again. I felt anxious all the time, hoping for sleep, hoping it would last for a long time, and nervous about what I would do when she was up again. When she wasn't happy or sleeping, or wasn't sleeping long enough or well enough, when I wanted it, and how I wanted it, I was angry. I felt like I was on the verge of tears most of the time. When I wasn't crying, I gave myself pep talks about how much I had to be grateful for and I would have things in perspective again for a little while. I would be okay until things felt out of my control again. Anger returned and a mean hot energy ran through my entire body. I had to scream or cry to let it out, and in the process I said hurtful things to my husband and little Aya. Both times I promised her I would never say anything bad about her ever again.<br /><br />Weeks past and things weren't getting any better. We weren't thriving. Even after we worked with our lactation consultant and a chiropractor and saw Aya's demeanor improve dramatically, I continued to feel miserable. Aya was better but I was getting worse. I felt really sad, really withdrawn and angry. It didn't help that I was having difficulty sleeping and my husband was emotionally and physically exhausted balancing work and his new baby girl, while never knowing what he could expect out of me. He walked carefully, not wanting to step on any hot spot that might set me off. We were in survival mode.<br /><br />And so there came a day when we knew I needed to go and see my midwife to find out what to do. After a few simple questions she said she thought I was experiencing depression. She said she thought an anti-depressant would help. I cried in her office. I felt and looked terrible despite the fact I had gotten ready, showered and done my hair. The next time she saw me, about two weeks later, she walked in the room, took one look and said, "Wow, you look great, wide-eyed and happy! It must be going well!" And it was. The medication was really helping. I felt like I had found myself again. I felt like now I could fall for my baby girl who brought tears to her dad's eyes when she arrived.<br /><br />Aya hadn't changed a lot. She still had moments of crying, still woke up frequently in the night and still wasn't a laid back baby. Yet, I could appreciate her now and give this new way of life a chance to reshape me, rather than trying to make it fit what I had previously known. I realized the more I tried to make Aya fit our life rather than fit ours around hers, the more frustrated I would be. I was going to have to learn what it really meant to put someone else needs before mine and be willing to let my routine get interupted a lot, again and again. It was time to start swimming with the new current no matter how much I wanted to resist it. But I was too worn out trying to swim upstream any longer. I believe my medication enabled me to think clearly enough to realize these good truths.<br /><br />I also saw a counselor who walked me through anger management. We talked about having proactive and reactive responses to anger that would work for me--in both cases, I found I needed to take step back and figure out exactly why I was upset before saying anything. We discovered that without medicine I had had to act out of an emotional state of mind rather than a rational state of mind because my anger came so quickly. With medication, I was able to recognize when anger was coming and was calm enough to be proactive.<br /><br />I am still learning a lot about post-partum depression but I have learned a lot already. Naturally, it's prevention intrigues me the most. Here is a compilation of some of the things I am discovering.<br /><br />It is important for mom and baby to be together as often as possible after the birth. A baby is naturally programed to stay close to his mother for warmth, nourishment and bonding. Swaddling isn't necessary when a baby stays with his mother and it doesn't do the job that the human body does to regulate body temperature.<br /><br />It is better to leave the hospital cap off of your babies head. A mother who can smell her baby's head can bond with her baby better.<br /><br />Let the doctors and nurses do initial tests on your baby while you hold him. Skin to skin contact with your baby, early and often, helps with bonding.<br /><br />Your baby will want to nurse soon after birth. By keeping your baby with you, you won't miss his window. This first nursing is important because your baby is in a unique state of alertness, ready to connect with you. If your baby is away from you when he wants to start nursing you might miss his cues.<br /><br />If possible, clean your own baby. Studies have shown that mammals in the wild who don't clean there own babies often don't bond with their babies and sometimes even abandon their babies.<br /><br />If possible, have a completely natural birth free of medications that could interfere with the hormonal responses your body uses to connect with your baby.<br /><br />Omega 3s are important during pregnancy and post-partum. A mom and baby starved of these nutrients are more prone to post-partum depression and colic. A liquid form is easiest for your body to absorb.<br /><br />When your body is ready and movement isn't painful, exercise regularly after the baby comes--as often as possible. Studies have shown that physical activity can work as well as medication in treating post-partum depression.<br /><br />Recognize you need as much care as the new baby. Have an extra hand stay with you after your baby arrives. You will need someone to take care of you while you care for your baby. In many other cultures, the first weeks of post-partum are very set aside. They are looked at as very different from routine days. In some cultures there is actually a ceremony after several weeks of post-partum to welcome the mother back to her routine in the community. Do what you can to set aside these early weeks. Limit visitors if they aren't helpful to your recovery. The mother panda doesn't leave her den for a month after her baby is born. This is a helpful for picture for me when I think about visualizing the early weeks. When nature has its way, the early weeks are a very focussed time, free from extra stress and the normal routine.<br /><br />Finally, nursing that is going well is shown to help prevent and fight post-partum depression. If it isn't going well, it can contribute to feelings of depression so seek help the minute you have questions, not after you are already experiencing a problem.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-74544073325652045372010-11-05T06:15:00.002-05:002010-11-05T06:24:15.534-05:00Another breastfeeding Perk<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhArXvtyhuhe5D8e4vjodh-H4QUKiHJrN3i0WC9oslfVCqmeLI95hzJ6J56JqReRI_ZSPNPHgtaZgRR4gOqsm_YQROy76bzHSk4QfIufK3Nb0Ebb3GXi00uQ4IIe2Wytr3MMVYCDzk1PPQ/s1600/DSCN3298.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536024872436692114" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhArXvtyhuhe5D8e4vjodh-H4QUKiHJrN3i0WC9oslfVCqmeLI95hzJ6J56JqReRI_ZSPNPHgtaZgRR4gOqsm_YQROy76bzHSk4QfIufK3Nb0Ebb3GXi00uQ4IIe2Wytr3MMVYCDzk1PPQ/s200/DSCN3298.JPG" /></a>In the past, Winter has been hard to embrace in the morning. Getting up when it is cold and dark was always very difficult for me; it seemed no matter how much sleep I got it was still too hard to get up. Yet this November, I am not dreading Winter mornings any longer. Provided I go to bed early enough, getting up in the dark has become rather simple--almost joyful-- thanks to nighttime nursing and routinely getting up early enough to have a little time to myself before Aya wakes. I haven't missed a sunrise in a long time and I'm starting to really like it.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-81447197942042352292010-10-31T07:26:00.008-05:002010-11-05T06:14:02.542-05:00Teeth<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWJLZoZ4UDCLoOCbFZne7FkGQ55zE6c6mekfQRsL2JF2b2bZvqiEeTzNRP0jdHwguzTJ_ITFMdcQKxilEESt98h_knmDDRbWKmEY891lDVXHkYYAzkx_6xfkFXa529ScE3nH0wL0typ_o/s1600/DSCN3239.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536022237884936290" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWJLZoZ4UDCLoOCbFZne7FkGQ55zE6c6mekfQRsL2JF2b2bZvqiEeTzNRP0jdHwguzTJ_ITFMdcQKxilEESt98h_knmDDRbWKmEY891lDVXHkYYAzkx_6xfkFXa529ScE3nH0wL0typ_o/s200/DSCN3239.JPG" /></a> Aya is on her way to 9 months now, and people at work are starting to ask me how much longer I plan to breastfeed. Many are wondering what I will do when Aya gets teeth. One of my friends had a terrible experience when her son got teeth around 6 months. She ended up weaning because the pain was too great. Mom told me all it took for her when I got teeth was to let out a yell the first time I bit her and I never did it again. At a La Leche League meeting, moms suggested ending the nursing sessions when your child bites to give her the message it isn't okay. I haven't had to experiment yet, but I thought it might be a good idea to be proactive and look up some helpful hints ahead of time. Here is what I found.<br /><div><div><div><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/older-baby/biting.html">When your baby starts teething<br /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><div></div></div></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-88918300260559863932010-10-30T15:24:00.002-05:002010-10-30T15:35:06.328-05:00An Added Perk<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXwO2AMxh2gMkHcIW85IWXinDzEgQt0Er5nn5D0loX3-YKHYmLr5fpBVDFN4_BPqUOlF_2BXQzC_piCmfRwdG4cPBHQUc8U6Lunw0npe_Df0t4O8KPDzkTYuBxuNXtx6iz3bakuqT9y4o/s1600/DSCN3149.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 150px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5533940251467567746" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXwO2AMxh2gMkHcIW85IWXinDzEgQt0Er5nn5D0loX3-YKHYmLr5fpBVDFN4_BPqUOlF_2BXQzC_piCmfRwdG4cPBHQUc8U6Lunw0npe_Df0t4O8KPDzkTYuBxuNXtx6iz3bakuqT9y4o/s200/DSCN3149.JPG" /></a> I have always been the first one to get cold and the last one to warm up. So, having Aya in February was perfect for me. I never once felt cold all winter. Actually, the winter felt good and invigorating...even if it was nearly the snowiest on record. While others were miserable, I was hoping we'd break the record. I expected that this winter I would once again spend a lot of my winter months chilled. Yet, Fall has already arrived. The mornings are chilly and the wind has felt fierce a few days. The seasons are changing and yet I'm still comfortable and cozy. I realize I might have breastfeeding to thank. It may be doing its good work by keeping me toasty just a little while longer. I just might have found another benefit of breastfeeding to add to the list.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-42354389328815569562010-10-26T06:12:00.003-05:002010-10-26T06:24:25.948-05:00Making the Most of Pumping SessionsI don't think pumping is any mother's favorite thing to do. It is not as cozy or as comfortable as nursing a little warm child, but it is important and necessary for many moms, including me! There are a few things I have learned about pumping that have helped me get more out of my sessions, and I'd like to pass these ideas along. It is disappointing to go through an entire pumping session only to get a little return for your time. Here are some things that have helped me add volume to my bottles!<br /><br />Relaxing my shoulders. It is amazing how my body responds to being comfortable. <br /><br />Massaging my breasts as I pump.<br /><br />Returning to the stimulation phase on the pump after the initial letdown is over.<br /><br />Pumping a full 15 minutes. I find I often get more milk in those final 2-3 minutes that I otherwise would have missed.<br /><br />Lifting my breasts while pumping and leaning forward. Is it gravity?<br /><br />What has helped most however, is doing nothing...if I do and think about something else while I'm pumping, I get far more milk than if I'm aware of just how how far away I am from my desired goal. <br /><br />It has also helped me to realize that it is okay if I don't get a lot of milk from one session. I can pump again or more often for a day. The milk will come; I might just have to spend a little more time loving my baby by pumping more often for a day.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-69134005314422836382010-10-23T13:00:00.004-05:002010-10-24T06:44:30.399-05:00Plugged Duct<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGcIo5HA-3WhAE-8n1dkcqP9FmgGoKXzeW1Wq2nZFDort9292PPj8UYM652WTiv6quoBI_VWsPdkftqYHQ1wuIwbBn0GVohcMbr6TqLI95Bp5YsgcQRy1EQhkSwy2dT_8U1y4AqxgdldE/s1600/DSCN2913.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5531577049464737858" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGcIo5HA-3WhAE-8n1dkcqP9FmgGoKXzeW1Wq2nZFDort9292PPj8UYM652WTiv6quoBI_VWsPdkftqYHQ1wuIwbBn0GVohcMbr6TqLI95Bp5YsgcQRy1EQhkSwy2dT_8U1y4AqxgdldE/s200/DSCN2913.JPG" /></a> I never had a plugged duct in my early nursing weeks, but mid way through 7 months I knew exactly what it meant to have one. I believe I got it because my Aya had been eating more solids during the day, but I had continued to pump the same amount of milk for her while away at work. However, it was a three day weekend-the first of the school year-and I was able to exclusively nurse without pumping. By Saturday night I felt really full, and by Sunday afternoon I realized I was still really full on one side even after Aya nursed. It was feeling uncomfortable, hard and stuck. I tried massaging the area and continued to put Aya back on the breast to see if she could nurse it out. It didn't work instantly, but with one last suckle, Aya had unplugged the duct and out poured the milk. It was like turning on a faucet. It made me laugh. Aya wasn't interested at all, so since we were on a road trip and not at home, I gently hand expressed into a sock. After about 5 minutes I wrung out a whole lot of milk! Again, I laughed.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-8274816817246301172010-10-23T12:46:00.005-05:002010-10-24T06:11:16.249-05:00Where I've Nursed<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTuzBURscLq75gX00xNFw1rve2pqj950i_yNYPbdleoIjSeC3RT97t4eSbiU_ieFfCPxZe60yY2iFrLf_J_mv0i8EaWcrOYMn_8RpzMxz_xpNhglte1Jj8fcR1ilT6aVKyLl51SFz_FmU/s1600/DSCN2991.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTuzBURscLq75gX00xNFw1rve2pqj950i_yNYPbdleoIjSeC3RT97t4eSbiU_ieFfCPxZe60yY2iFrLf_J_mv0i8EaWcrOYMn_8RpzMxz_xpNhglte1Jj8fcR1ilT6aVKyLl51SFz_FmU/s200/DSCN2991.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5531568530640414306" /></a><br />It is funny to think about the places one can nurse. I thought I'd share a quick list...to remind you of some of your own funny moments. One of the things I've decided I love most about babies is that they wear their feelings on their sleeves. They aren't afraid to be open and are naturally vulnerable. I can learn from my Aya's nature: it is okay to need care and it is good to ask for it.<br /><br />Here are some places where I've nursed: at the park on the bench and on the grass, in dressing rooms at GoodWill and Talbots, while leaning over her car seat, at the coffee shop, in the backseat, while on the move, while sitting still and while lying down. My favorite was while I walked her in her soft carrier. She just couldn't wait until we got home.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-63117190881822197332010-10-23T06:12:00.003-05:002010-10-24T06:12:46.879-05:00Working and Nursing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJGYFU-iuIPwStDxGb8NXR5Tx_7XZSOcuXZMyP_0XiFlXvIjOHl-TF7TASdUlfXin_aUAGDFmOEcfJszDCnFBVVG2apG25BpqdfOT5Q7m4-iwa_rjzQ47X9XUokaONVZQmER04_YYc45g/s1600/DSCN3013.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 150px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5531202306113496594" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJGYFU-iuIPwStDxGb8NXR5Tx_7XZSOcuXZMyP_0XiFlXvIjOHl-TF7TASdUlfXin_aUAGDFmOEcfJszDCnFBVVG2apG25BpqdfOT5Q7m4-iwa_rjzQ47X9XUokaONVZQmER04_YYc45g/s200/DSCN3013.JPG" /></a>I have been thankful these days that I am still nursing while working. I love knowing that although Aya can be fed, cared for, tickled, held and rocked by anyone, only I can nurse her-and sometimes that is the only thing she wants. Going back to work has been an adjustment on many levels. I have had to realize that someone else will know Aya's daily routine better than I will. I have had to realize that someone else might have a better idea of how much food she needs, which kinds she likes better than others, and exactly when she has had enough. Someone else may see her do things first and have a better sense of her daily rhythms. I have had to learn to listen to what my sitter has learned about Aya, rather than tell the sitter what I know about Aya. I have had to learn that it is good and okay that Aya will bond with another caregiver and love her, too. All the while, through my learning and letting go, I still know Aya needs me to nurse her. For that, I am very grateful.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-38909593185458838842010-09-25T07:33:00.003-05:002010-10-24T06:15:19.167-05:00The Sound of Nursing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykxQS5vV9QfSrb0ZvFweJ-9c_-ZC4K-_nX36zuAd75XzJJEbL3NYItCB_lRphEj3Y7Bhw4ucEtqubXALgfxtgzBCoGYfXpb642ygGcOAROfgZz1cJX1zC956MD3tzi03r1bvbXFUJE1I/s1600/DSCN2731.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiykxQS5vV9QfSrb0ZvFweJ-9c_-ZC4K-_nX36zuAd75XzJJEbL3NYItCB_lRphEj3Y7Bhw4ucEtqubXALgfxtgzBCoGYfXpb642ygGcOAROfgZz1cJX1zC956MD3tzi03r1bvbXFUJE1I/s200/DSCN2731.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5531569578051448706" /></a><br />When it is quiet enough in our home to listen while I feed <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">Aya</span>, I realize what a beautiful sound nursing is. I love to hear her swallow deeply in the beginning, listening to the sound of abundant milk flowing. Then, later in the feed, it is the gentler swallowing, the quieter drips of milk that sound satisfying, like the lasts bites of a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">decadent</span> dessert you don't want to eat too quickly. <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">Aya's</span> body seems to almost dance to the music. When the music of the milk is loudest, her eyes are wide open, her hands often reach out for my face, a string on my <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">hoody</span> or my breast. Then, as the "music" calms and slows, so too her face relaxes, and her shoulders rest. As the "music" fades, her arms fall to her side, her hands open and she is lulled to sleep by the slow dance. It couldn't be anymore peaceful, for her, or me.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-32440323324182436542010-09-25T06:38:00.003-05:002010-10-24T07:51:29.163-05:00Works for Everything<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimfiL0FZtQ6-e4VMllkgtj-yjLAORQWrpLAvDjZBJ6NLYdZrgtl25mRM2zxKEuUtw2HkXQhGXOsDcac3NpqnFg2S6HzDSw8GaWIKYx2AMgruv0qoEeLIEYto1RUHP-17QzbxRTyGy7F4w/s1600/DSCN2951.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5531594354121633170" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimfiL0FZtQ6-e4VMllkgtj-yjLAORQWrpLAvDjZBJ6NLYdZrgtl25mRM2zxKEuUtw2HkXQhGXOsDcac3NpqnFg2S6HzDSw8GaWIKYx2AMgruv0qoEeLIEYto1RUHP-17QzbxRTyGy7F4w/s200/DSCN2951.JPG" /></a> I have come to love the fact that nursing seems to work for everything. Before Aya was born, I thought of nursing primarily as the way I would feed Aya. After she was born, I continued to think of it this way. I would feed her and then "watch the clock" for the next time it seemed as though she was probably hungry again. It didn't matter if she cried or fussed in between--I always assumed she was distressed for a reason other than needing to nurse. I knew the hunger cues to watch for, but for some reason I found them very difficult to read so I followed the clock instead. Aya would eat and then begin to suck her hands again a half an hour later...certainly she couldn't be hungry again--or was she!? Looking back, I think Aya needed to nurse far more often than I offered. She might not have always been hungry but she certainly was upset and nursing might have been the perfect way to soothe and comfort her.<br /><br />Now I feed Aya whenever it seems right. Often it is because I can tell she is hungry but now I also nurse her when we have been apart for awhile, when she seems sensitive or unsure. It makes me happy to know I can meet most all of her needs by holding her close and letting her nurse.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-58876577596495987212010-09-18T07:00:00.003-05:002010-09-18T07:19:32.401-05:00Blisters?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgTdqA4a-2uXjPePVEBTSJeV9o4ocKVsw1-fibcM2hHp96dYL_tVeLc2Yt4RwIFaY89z5rJHrAXFRPqiE-1ielqRJwvD9gp7KrFSurENmW2Tf1U9Uoqy1BwX7S-QjO9MEoKCdw8WMLum9E/s1600/DSCN2214.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5518227006208560498" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgTdqA4a-2uXjPePVEBTSJeV9o4ocKVsw1-fibcM2hHp96dYL_tVeLc2Yt4RwIFaY89z5rJHrAXFRPqiE-1ielqRJwvD9gp7KrFSurENmW2Tf1U9Uoqy1BwX7S-QjO9MEoKCdw8WMLum9E/s200/DSCN2214.JPG" /></a> I didn't know you could get sore nipples again...For a few days, I had noticed that I felt sore again and finally, when I actually looked at my nipple, I saw the culprit. I had little red blisters. Nursing felt like pinching and it wasn't comfortable. Crazy, right? Thankfully, I read some good information in <em>The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding</em>, and started trying its suggestions. Basically, blisters, or blebs as they call them, can occur because of blocked ducts. The blisters forms over the top and actually collects some milk within them. They can occur more frequently after a period of time when the baby begins to sleep longer stretches at night. The book listed many options as remedies--soaking them in olive oil, warm water or vinegar, popping them with a sterilized needle, and more frequent nursing. I tried the vinegar. Vinegar actually absorbs the milk within the blister and then makes the blister smaller.<br /><div></div><br /><div>For a day or two, I put vinegar on a paper towel and wore it within my bra for a few minutes after feeding. Finally, after one of Aya's longer nursing sessions, I felt it pop and it bled a little. For several days after it popped, I still felt some tenderness but a lot less pressure. I followed the lead of a lactation consultant at a hospital class I attended, and used some neosporin, which helped speed up my recovery considerably. This was not a fun experience, but I was glad it reminded me again of how painful nursing can be in the early days, and reminded me too, of how thankful I am that nursing is comfortable again. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-14145821005545764092010-08-14T06:21:00.004-05:002010-10-23T06:12:55.710-05:00Letting Go of Schedules<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1wwkqR2r6R3_xk6P8Y4jdGGulEn22rB4gi01aGNUK3xZWtF10y5Rq1Fxh8DWtmCreKExHUJgS0avabQtgHCHCeDYlCcSRj19OQySvxOQrkBu3JFNjSWmx-EvldS9yKPI5U-G-Td0nnig/s1600/DSCN1795.JPG"><span style="color:#000000;"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5505235409725244578" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1wwkqR2r6R3_xk6P8Y4jdGGulEn22rB4gi01aGNUK3xZWtF10y5Rq1Fxh8DWtmCreKExHUJgS0avabQtgHCHCeDYlCcSRj19OQySvxOQrkBu3JFNjSWmx-EvldS9yKPI5U-G-Td0nnig/s200/DSCN1795.JPG" /></span></a><span style="color:#000000;"> I believe that in the beginning a lot of what was so challenging for me was deciding what I felt comfortable with as a mom.</span><span style="color:#000066;"> </span><span style="color:#000000;">There is a lot to read about being a mom. There are a lot of contrasting opinions and a lot of do's and don'ts. There are a lot of different philosophies about parenting. It takes a long time to find what works for you as an individual and family, and it changes as you learn more about yourself as parents, too. </span><br /><div></div><div>Before Aya came, I didn't do a lot of reading. I thought mothering would come naturally for me and that I would just know what to do. I took the advice, "Do what your instincts tell you to do." That sounded easy enough to me. I felt confident and ready, and so did my husband. But then Aya arrived and we realized we had no idea what we were doing. The instincts I did have about soothing Aya didn't seem to work, and we rather quickly lost a lot of confidence in our own God given gifts to care for our unhappy baby. In response, I started reading everything I could about how to comfort, feed and help Aya sleep. I wanted so badly to find a rhythm to our day again. For quite a while I decided to follow one set of advice that said you could get your baby on a schedule from the beginning. Proponents of having a schedule said it helped you parent because you knew what your baby wanted, you had time for yourself, and your baby would be happy. Perfect. Except Aya wouldn't get on the schedules that were proposed, and I became more nervous and tense about the fact she wasn't napping as long as the book said and wanted to eat more often than it said I should be feeding her. In time, I realized trying to keep Aya on a schedule was causing me more stress than simply doing the best I could to gauge her needs as they came. </div><br /><div></div><div>I read in <em>The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding</em> that many mothers try to "keep their feet under them" in the beginning. I certainly was. It compares learning to mother to a new swimmer who eventually learns you can't swim while trying to drag your feet under you. Like swimming, I learned mothering might be easier the moment I stop trying to keep my feet under me and let the current take me. For me, there was freedom in letting go and this swimming parallel continues to be very helpful for me. When I try to keep my feet under me (by trying to stick to a schedule or keep everything neat and tidy), I feel my body tightening and my mind tiring. Yet when I let go, and fall in place with Aya's own rhythm (or lack of), I feel my body relax and my mind is calmer. I enjoy being a mom this way and it feels more natural. </div><br /><div></div><div>Now I don't worry about exactly when Aya last ate. I feed her when she acts interested and eager. She might be hungry, or thirsty, or just want to be close. She might be scared, startled, or in a bit of pain. Breastfeeding seems to mend many things. La Leche League says adults are offered food often and we can decide when and how much we need at any given time. They suggest offering the breast as often as we would like too, because our babies will decide whether they need anything at the time or not. It just might be those little "snacks" we offer here and there that help our baby to grow best, both physically and emotionally. We might grow best as a mom this way too. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-49558820703381703952010-08-14T05:58:00.005-05:002010-08-14T07:06:50.989-05:00La Leche League Meetings<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiyXJlb8R8xhH_bMRqHSb6HHhe9lC-o8QwahbTK01j3cicgWBbtPwQyXv41HJx-He8mPMdxRt4bbsymykaCHKIk8lE_pxDPFJpvUUgr84S2ZcTJItMUwpb3SZYMk99-GbymyW-hVs7RAc/s1600/DSCN2297.JPG"><span style="color:#000099;"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5505223447084971634" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiyXJlb8R8xhH_bMRqHSb6HHhe9lC-o8QwahbTK01j3cicgWBbtPwQyXv41HJx-He8mPMdxRt4bbsymykaCHKIk8lE_pxDPFJpvUUgr84S2ZcTJItMUwpb3SZYMk99-GbymyW-hVs7RAc/s200/DSCN2297.JPG" /></span></a><span style="color:#000066;">I went to my third La Leche League meeting yesterday morning.</span> It is always so good to be with other moms. Moms seem to be very supportive of one another and value one anothers perspectives and experiences. It is nice to be in a place where you don't feel judged, only encouraged. Aya loves the meetings too. At home she won't sit on my lap for more than a minute or two without being ready to get up and move. But when Aya is with other people she seems to be able to sit for much longer stretches of time, happily taking in the sights and sounds that other babies provide.<br /><div></div><br /><div>Yesterday we did talk about some breastfeeding concerns, but we also talked about things like how to make time for yourself when your baby is little, how to prepare quick meals, and how to still make time for your spouse. </div><br /><div></div><div>I am learning I really do love the philosophy of La Leche League. It isn't just about breastfeeding a baby. It is also about nurturing a little life and being aware of how motherhood also shapes you as a person, too. For me, La Leche League beautifully captures the entire picture of breastfeeding. It almost puts mother's milk as a nutritional source at the end of its long list of benefits and focuses more on the connection, love, security and peace a baby enjoys while feeding. I believe the philosophy of La Leche League has helped me to slow down as a mom and savor it more because it has helped me see breastfeeding not just as a meal, but as an intimate way to connect with my Aya. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8553699757794348068.post-64084370994688561922010-08-11T14:59:00.003-05:002010-08-11T15:35:01.576-05:00Do I Have Enough Milk?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgudVSYqZ19VQZ5dyAZdXaN1rsR0cloFdjFvnaqPVpuO0BH37K8qE7TRlOXJKfOgfGXt4TGpwdZVNsK1tg0orpvcmsxRALg1JTzAojyNkw5DIEUhujJFHQ6qzEUCw-Q0iLiYLoyKzxaYhM/s1600/DSCN1283.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5504253492646879170" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgudVSYqZ19VQZ5dyAZdXaN1rsR0cloFdjFvnaqPVpuO0BH37K8qE7TRlOXJKfOgfGXt4TGpwdZVNsK1tg0orpvcmsxRALg1JTzAojyNkw5DIEUhujJFHQ6qzEUCw-Q0iLiYLoyKzxaYhM/s200/DSCN1283.JPG" /></a> About the time my milk supply adjusted to Aya's needs, I began to worry I didn't have enough milk. I have since learned that it is common for moms to worry about this somewhere around 6 weeks when a milk supply typically balances out. For me, it was a bit later than that. I worried because Aya seemed to want to eat more frequently, my breasts never felt very full, and Aya would pat at my breast throughout feedings, often coming off the breast acting frustrated. I thought all of these things must be indicators that I didn't have enough milk. I got worried and called a breastfeeding hotline through my hospital. The lactation consultant I spoke to agreed it sounded as though I may need to boost my supply. However, later that day, I was able to connect with the lactation consultant I had worked with previously. Unlike the other lactation consultant, she felt my milk supply was probably fine. Her clue was that Aya was still going for long stretches at night. She said if a milk supply is in jeopardy, a baby who eats frequently all day long will get up at night too. Again, after talking to two different lactation consultants and hearing two different responses, I was reminded breastfeeding is about a lot of love, a little bit of science, and a lot of experimenting-- accompanied by trusting you and your baby.<br /><div></div><br /><div>Feeling confident Aya did have enough milk, I began experimenting a little to see why Aya seemed frustrated. I kept think she was coming off of the breast because she wasn't getting enough. So, I switched her to the other side and once again, she would come off the breast and hit my chest. I didn't think she could possibly be done because she hadn't nursed for what I considered to be long enough. She used to nurse for at least 15 minutes, so the new 5-10 minute routine confused me. Finally, I gave up, and when she came off of each breast, patting them, I stopped nursing her. She smiled. Aya wasn't patting at my breast, coming on and off, frustrated and fidgety because she didn't have enough to eat; rather, she was trying to tell me she had had enough. She was more efficient now and she was ready to play. </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2